This is it, the big moment has arrived, the culmination of a year and a half of research, and hopefully answers to a year and a half of questions. My sister Vanessa and I are going to meet one of our donors, and I am both nervous and strangely serene.
If you have not yet read the first part of the story written by Vanessa, I invite you to read it by clicking here. Everything accelerated in January 2021 thanks to this new DNA match: We discovered on our third Ancestry DNA test a DNA match of vital importance for the continuation of our research: Kathi, a 70 year old Swiss lady living in the United States with whom we share 4% of DNA in common.
“Can we have a call together one of these days? There is something I’d like to share with you, but not in writing”. This short message, sent by my brother at the beginning of summer 2021, has been the start of huge upheavals in our story. At that time, I joked imagining what could be the content of this so disturbing news. But I had forgotten that a few words can be sufficient to upset the world.
As a child, I remember questioning my origins, but today I can't say why. I 'learned it the wrong way'. I was ten years old and my parents were separating. My mother told me by surrounding herself awkwardly while excluding my father from the process. My world, who I was and what I believed to be true, collapsed in minutes.
My older sister, my twin brother and I grew up in French-speaking Switzerland in a loving family with two very present parents. A family that has always stayed together, despite its ups and downs, even after the discovery we made two years ago. In October 2019 I was strangely fascinated by a documentary on the...
Deep down I always knew... Since I was a child, I always had a strange feeling. I even questioned my parents, because I was convinced that I was adopted. My parents always denied everything. My mother showed me pictures of her pregnancy. I imagined all kinds of things... Then came biology class. We did an innocent test, to see what...
Twenty years ago, when I was 19, the world seemed to be falling apart around me. Before that day, my parents had not planned to tell us anything, it was just one of many secrets that hung over our seemingly "perfect" family. During my childhood and adolescence, I often thought that my sister, so different from me, could not really be my sister.... and yet, I never doubted our family constellation.
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